There are experiences we bury because they feel too heavy to hold, yet they eventually rise and ask to be healed. Her turning point came in silence, but its impact shaped everything that followed. This is her journey back to truth, trust, and becoming whole again.
THEN
There are moments in life that split us — the person we were before, and the woman we begin becoming after.
For her, that moment arrived at twenty-four.
The pregnancy was unplanned, unexpected, and arrived during a season where she was still finding her way after the end of a six-year relationship.
It wasn’t with someone she saw a future with, and it came at a time when she wasn’t anchored in her own wellbeing. What she didn’t realise then — what she has only come to understand years later — is how profoundly that chapter would shape the woman she would eventually become.
The decision was not held in her hands. Her autonomy dissolved beneath the weight of someone else’s voice — the one person she had never imagined she would challenge: her mum.
There was no time to process what was happening, no space to sit with her thoughts, and no permission to express how deeply it was affecting her. Just as quickly as it began, it was over. And in her home, in her world, it became something never to be spoken about again.
But silence doesn’t erase the soul. It simply buries what will one day rise for healing.
Looking back, she recognises that her immediate response was resilience — not the loud, triumphant kind, but the kind that helps you survive when you have no other choice. She held her inner truth tightly inside, unable to voice it, yet feeling it scream within her.
She didn’t have the strength then to stand up for herself. But the very fact that she kept going through something so deeply personal and traumatic reveals a resilience she can now finally see.
And with time, space, and distance, she realised something else:
This chapter was the beginning of her choosing herself.
It was the catalyst that led her to the coast — to the ocean, where she feels calm and grounded. It guided her toward new friendships, new environments, and a new path she was meant to walk. What once felt like the ending of everything became the quiet push that redirected the course of her life.
NOW
In this season of her life, she is returning to two things that were buried beneath that old chapter:
confidence and trust.
She is carving out space where she can have a voice, take up room, and feel in control of her own life.
When she reflects on who she was then and who she is now, one word keeps rising to the surface: resilience.
Her body and mind carried her through a moment that could have broken her. And now, she honours that part of herself by allowing healing, rediscovery, and truth to guide her forward.
Some boundaries — especially with her mum — formed over the years without her fully realising it. But now she understands that those boundaries were her way of protecting herself through her transition into this next chapter.
And in this new season, the things that make her feel most herself are simple and honest:
deep friendships, positive environments, and the grounding comfort of being close to the water. These are the places where she feels powerful, calm, and connected again.
For years she carried the quiet belief that she wasn’t maternal enough, that something was missing in her.
But now she sees clearly:
Those qualities were always within her — her compassion, her tenderness, her instinct to nurture — even if they don’t show up in the traditional “mother and child” narrative. They still live inside her, shaping the way she moves through the world.
Wholeness, too, has taken on a new meaning.
It used to look like quantity — the most friends, the highest-paying job, money in the bank.
Now, wholeness feels like something deeper and freer:
a sense of happiness, a sense of love, a sense of success that exists without comparison or measurement.
HER WISDOM TO YOU
There’s a line she has held onto since she was eleven — one that has stayed with her through heartbreak, healing, and growth:
“Never let the fear of striking out keep you from playing the game.” — Babe Ruth
A childhood quote that has quietly become her mantra for courage.
If someone she loved were facing a chapter like hers, she would tell them:
"Don’t hide your emotions. Give yourself space to feel everything. Seek a safe place to speak honestly, and trust that this moment
does not define your future — you still get to shape what comes next."
And finally, she shares the realisation that surprised her most:
Sometimes the experiences we believe we’ve moved past return years later, asking to be healed with the understanding we didn’t have at the time.
The strength it took for her to open up, release the fear of judgment, and finally accept her journey — that has been the most powerful part of all.
-L
